i'm glad i read this, because i honestly have been writing two female characters in love with each other and was kinda...well...dancing around the whole sex thing, because i was honestly not sure what to do
but, now i've got something to work with
and plus, i'd say the advice in the bottom half applies to more than just homosexual relationships, but can also apply to heterosexual one's too. :3
Great job and clearing up these misconceptions. I would like to say that most misconceptions are bred through ignorance but i find so often its mainly intolerance... Ridiculous notions the vagina can evoke in certain people. SMH lol
I admit I saw this lesson first and will swiftly move to look at the first two
I have to say this made me laugh, but I also appreciate there being something like this on here to dispel certain misconceptions. I especially appreciate the rather unrelated comments underneath as to why a woman who is a lesbian still uses a dildo or whatever. I got into this discussion with my boyfriend when he said a mate of his made this exact comment "im gona be a lesbian, cos i dick repules me!" <uses fake penis>... oh the irony :/"
It pisses me off and you worded your reply so perfectly, I feel I can give a reasonable reply to something like this the next time some idiot says it, as I couldn't think of one the last time and it bugs me even 2 weeks later :/
I don't get the question that how do lesbians know when the sex is over... Do they mean that women don't have ejaculations or? How do you define the end of the sex then? I find this question a bit nonsense
yeah, makes more sense, but these people must live in a cave if they think like that. and it makes me sad that there are actually people thinking the only point in sex is that the man comes and the woman is just thereto help him. seems I've lived in a wonderland to think that women's sexual needs are accepted and not only the lucky ones get to find pleasure. (I'm speaking of mainly the western culture since I don't really know how these things work elsewhere. and i hope you get the point what I'm trying to express cause it's morning here, the time when I forget how to english )
Well if you look at statistics about women and orgasms... You will see that it's really everyone else living in the cave.. XD Yes I understand your point perfectly and I agree with you. My partner used to date men before she accepted that she loved women, and sex back then for her was just that, for the man to come. She describes it as "Just laying there and waiting for it to be finished." She is much much more liberated and happy now.
So happy to see this lesson up now! Fantastic Series it really has helped me become less awkward when trying to formulate sentences to my new lesbian friends (I have only really met gay men, or bi individuals who have ended up as friends) who don't know that I am just really socially awkward and trying my hardest not to offend them. You have saved me so many "Tell me if this is out of bounds I am just extremely confused/under educated about..." Moments. Bless you!
I do know lesbian porn is overdone as hell (all porn is for that matter), I'm simply saying that the premise of lesbians not being physically capable of having sex is easily disproven by about ten seconds of porn, as far from the truth as it may be...
Also, the hell you talking about "porn is a really bad way to get sex education," thanks to porn I knew more then my 4th grade sex ed teacher and every sex ed teacher after her (my knowledge never stopped growing).
I am not trying to offend you, I am agreeing. About porn being a bad way to get sex ed, I am trying to say porn dismisses women, and shows stuff women don't like to do - if someone try to do those stuff (and only those stuff) to a woman and expect her to come or feel pleasure, it will be a huge fail. Women need appropriate stimuli and not just have a dick (or anything) stuck into them xD
That may be the case for some lesbians - that penises aren't attractive to them - but usually it's the male gender as a whole or perhaps they simply found attraction in a woman moreso than any other person. To suggest being a lesbian equals repulsion to phalli is an extremely narrow view of lesbians in general. Also, the sex toys themselves are more often than not shaped in very unrealistic ways (as you may notice, and I didn't even illustrate some of the more interesting ones) because a woman is still designed to receive some pleasure inside her vagina. She doesn't necessarily need a 'real' penis or even anything remotely shaped like one to stimulate those areas.
Still, some lesbians never use phallic toys, like I mentioned, because they don't like vaginal penetration in general - for personal or even medical reasons. That doesn't make the ones who do enjoy penetration any less lesbian. If you define someone's sexuality simply by what they receive pleasure from that leads to a lot of grey areas for a lot of people who have experimented with toys, oral, etc. Does the married man who learns he likes his wife to stimulate his prostate during sex make him suddenly less heterosexual, even though he's committed and completely in love with his wife only? If they got a divorce and he still was attracted to women, does that tiny detail of his sex life - enacted solely by women - mean he's actually homosexual? I could argue the same for fellatio on men - just because they aren't using the vagina, does that make heterosexual men who mainly receive fellatio ambiguous since both men and women have mouths? It's a little hard to distinguish if someone is gay, straight, or somewhere in between when all you're relating it to is their sex practices and not taking the gender of their partners into account at all.
yeah sorry you misunderstood me. i was trying to keep the comment short. i understand what you are saying. i undersand everyone has their own sexual preferences and i have no problem with anything anyone likes, hertro or homo or anything in between. (except overly gay guys who go out of thier way to act disgusting and crude at every opurtunity to "prove" they are proud of their sexuallity because i think its increadibly immature and only portrays insecurity) anyway! i wasnt meaning everyone, ofcourse people are different. that was just something that has always amused me. for the small group that i described.
I think in that case you are describing a fictional conundrum, because of all the lesbians I have ever heard of or known that have found phalluses repulsive simply by respect of being phallic and not who they are attached to, they tend to avoid penetrative sex with phallic objects.
Simply put, Dildos Do Not Equal Penises, and are not 'male'. Most dildos are shaped unrealistically or shaped like the inside of a woman's vagina. And I don't see how it was a misunderstanding when you used so few words to make a sweeping statement.
As far as your problem with 'overly gay guys', you can find "crude and disgusting" behavior with heterosexual males more often, especially targeted towards women, to prove their 'straightness' and masculinity. I think there is an underlying discomfort to the homosexuals in particular that you may want to reflect upon. It's sort of contradictory to make a statement of 'I have no problem with anything' and then follow it up a clause, especially one that simply reads as 'when they are making themselves noticeably gay'. I don't have a problem with anyone's sexuality, even when they're making themselves noticeably heterosexual. I also don't have a problem with anyone feeling however they do, even if it's disapproving of a certain group of people. However, if you're going to comment on a homosexual topic on education, expect a certain tone of reply when you make sweeping generalizations that aren't educational or constructive.